How to stop whining in your child?

How to stop whining in your child?

Being a parent; you might have gone through a situation where you wanted to pull your hair seeing your kid whine and wanting a way out. It may be annoying and difficult to deal with. At that moment, you may not know how to exactly react and turn back to be aggressive at some point in time. But what you need to know before you learn to STOP the whining is, why does your child, in general, do that?

Why do children whine?

Whining is considered as complaining but in an annoying or loud tone where sometimes children tend to drag the words, for instance, “Take me Ouuuuuuttttt”. A few kids just need to tune in with their tone while speaking whereas a few children use this as a technique to get things to go faster than normal and also, a few others do this in a hope to get some attention, using any way possible.

Why do children whine?

How to stop your child from whining?

Note Yourself: When handling a whining child, reacting in a disrespectful manner or hurting the child is not a rightful approach. This would just make the situation more worst. React in an appropriate and calmer way with your child. Be composed and just show a little dislike for his behaviour. I know, your first reaction might be a frustrating one but always pause and breathe. Remember that your behaviour goes a long way in the choices that are made.

Ask for being clear: Sometimes the good idea is to tell your child “I do not understand what you are saying. Could you repeat by being a little calm?” By doing so the child will get an idea that his tone is not being understood and so not, serving the primary purpose itself.

Talking about their whining

Talk about their whining: Another thing you could try doing is- When you see that the child is comparatively relaxed now, ask him the reason behind such behaviour and what do they need? For instance, if the child says that nobody appreciates his efforts then note that thing.

Next time on a direct conversation, praise the child for something good they have done like “Thank you for pouring water in the plants. If you would not have done that, half of their leaves might have had shed.”

Note before they start to whine: Before your child starts to whine get him what he wants and try to understand why and what are the things that made him whine and what he was trying to say the last time he did or the situations that lead to it.

If your child whines every time he is hungry or wants to go for a ride and you begin to see symptoms of him starting to whine, get him what he needs. Take him for a car ride or provide him with some snacks in between the meals without him asking. In this way, he will not want to choose to whine as an approach in the first place.

Ignore Whining: Sometimes you have to choose to ignore whining and respond to the normal talking tone, to promote speaking normally. This not only saves your energy but also lets the younger one knows that he has to stop whining all the time because that won’t work.

Just tell your kid beforehand or he might simply blow your ears. Put forth words like “Today I’m looking forward to you speaking in a calmer manner and if you whine, I will be ignoring your words.”

Look for sufficient sleep hours: Know if your child has been whining because of lack of sleep. Kids often need more sleep than you and turn to be aggressive when they are tired. Even the quality of sleep matters.

If your kid is whining late in the evening that means he might be feeling sleepy and wishing to go to bed early. So, do not determine his sleeping hours based on your schedule. Let him have an extra hour or a half of good sleep.

Moreover, try to feed your children with fewer candies and junk as it makes them aggressive. Also, Try to compromise at times when it comes to letting them watch television for 10 more minutes or wanting to hear one more story. Compromising at times would let him know that asking for things also works and they do not have to whine. Lastly, have patience. It might be tough but you’ll laugh at it when they grow up.

1. Know the reasons for whining and react or provide things accordingly.
2. Praise the child for good behaviour and promote normal speaking.
3. Provide snacks in between meals, so that your child is not hungry. Sometimes, children go cranky, because of hunger.
4. Never compromise on their sleep and compromise yourself at times to fulfill the little things they ask for.

How to stop whining in your child

Why do children whine

How to stop your child from whining

Ask for being clear

Talk about their whining

Note before they start to whine

Ignore Whining

Look for sufficient sleep hours


Malathi A Ganesh is a B. Com Graduate, NTT, M.A (Lit), PGDEA (PG in Education Administration), PGDCA (PG Diploma in Computer Application), DTE (Diploma in Teaching English), ICEPT (International Certificate in Education Preschool Teaching) from Singapore and B. Ed. She has been in the field of education for the past 20 years and has an experience of running her own pre-school She is the Founder & Director Academics of Smartkidz Educare India Pvt Ltd with 275+ play schools Pan India. She is an Educationist and a Child Psychologists by profession who wants to fulfill her dream of giving Quality Education to children in their earlier years. She is also into conducting positive parenting workshops, which talks about effective child rearing. She has conducted numerous parenting workshops in all her pre schools, schools and MNC’s.

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