How to deal with separation anxiety of your baby?

How to deal with separation anxiety of your baby?

Separation Anxiety usually occurs, when a child has an irrational fear upon separation from their parents or caretaker. Separation anxiety is considered a normal stage in an infant’s development because they are not accustomed to meeting new people or visiting new places. The child identifies parents or caretakers as safe and any form of separation causes them to feel fear and an invisible threat.

However, Separation anxiety must end by the age of 2. If it extends your toddler may not want to try being independent and will be excessively attached to you. They will lack an understanding of time, the fact that through their parents or caretakers are gone for a while they will surely return later.


To an extent, it is normal for your toddler to feel anxious after being separated from you. Although if this anxiety interferes with their ability to carry out daily activities, like going to school, playing with others in the absence of parents, it means they are facing severe Separation Anxiety.

Here are a few common causes of Separation Anxiety among toddlers:

Sudden changes in their physical surroundings: Leaving them at a daycare center, moving to a new house or going to school, can trigger separation anxiety.

An overprotective or anxious parent: A child tends to observe and pick up behaviors from their parents. If a parent looks anxious the toddler will observe it and this would feed their separation anxiety.

Loss: Any kind of loss like a divorce or losing a pet/loved one can contribute to your toddler’s separation anxiety.

Biological factors: When the two hormones serotonin and dopamine are unbalanced it usually leads to anxiety.

toddler tantrum


– Extreme discomfort when separated from parents or caretakers.

– Unwillingness to go to school or other new places because they dread separation

– Unwillingness to sleep without their parent or caretaker

– Nightmares related to separation

– Complaints about nausea, headaches or dizziness after any kind of separation has taken place.

– Fear/worry that they might lose their caretaker or worry that their caretaker can get possibly hurt due to accidents, injuries or illness.


There are a few strategies which parents can practice to curb such anxiety or fear in the minds of their toddler:

• Stay calm during separation-If you look calm during separation from your child, they will imitate that behavior. If you look disturbed, your toddler will start perceiving every new situation or change as a threat.

• Practice staying separate-Try to leave your toddler with his grandparents. Ask your friends or family to take care of your child in your absence. In this way, your toddler would start getting familiar with other adults and would not feel unsafe in your absence.

Set up a routine– Routines are predictable and having a routine will make your toddler feel safe and calm. Have a fixed mealtime and bedtime.

Listen to your Child– Let them express their discomfort and vent out the unpleasant feelings, they get after separation. Your toddler will feel that they are being cared for and listened to which will help them heal. Suppressing anxiety will make them feel angry and frustrated.

listening to baby child

Limit avoiding activities- You would want to avoid activities that cause anxiety to your child, however, avoidance will only create more problems for your toddler in the future. For instance, your toddler feels distressed, when left in a daycare center, avoiding daycare centers might appease them in the present. However, in the future, this might translate to them, wanting to avoid any new situation or any kind of separation from you. They will be unwilling to go to school or to the park alone to play with others.

• Encourage your child, when they engage in new activities- This will help your child feel positive about trying new activities on their own, not anxious. Compliment them when they play with others or go to bed without complaining.

If the separation anxiety intensifies and the child has physical symptoms like nausea, heart palpitations or dizziness, it is best to consult a therapist or a psychologist who specializes in children and adolescents.

For immediate help, you can call the National Parent Helpline (U.S) at 1-855-427-2736

How to deal with separation anxiety of your baby?

Causes of Separation Anxiety in baby

Sudden changes in their physical surroundings

An overprotective or anxious parent




Malathi A Ganesh is a B. Com Graduate, NTT, M.A (Lit), PGDEA (PG in Education Administration), PGDCA (PG Diploma in Computer Application), DTE (Diploma in Teaching English), ICEPT (International Certificate in Education Preschool Teaching) from Singapore and B. Ed. She has been in the field of education for the past 20 years and has an experience of running her own pre-school She is the Founder & Director Academics of Smartkidz Educare India Pvt Ltd with 275+ play schools Pan India. She is an Educationist and a Child Psychologists by profession who wants to fulfill her dream of giving Quality Education to children in their earlier years. She is also into conducting positive parenting workshops, which talks about effective child rearing. She has conducted numerous parenting workshops in all her pre schools, schools and MNC’s.

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