What are the 10 common teenage issues, your parents should know?
Parents always think that they’ve learned a lot in life till now and know their children better or know what it feels to be a teenager based on how they did when they were one. But it’s not always how we look at things.
Life changes and everybody feels differently at a particular stage of life and so does your child. And if you think you know them, maybe you don’t completely know them, because your child knows herself more than anybody else. We always know our self better. Right?
10 Issues For Teenage Parents To Know:
Decide if we are kids or grown-up: Parents always call us or consider us to be a kid in everything we do. Or sometimes they want us to do something and call us to be a grown-up and grown-ups do that. If you treat us to be kids, we will always be one. And if you entrust us with the responsibilities of growing kids, we will be one. Please decide on one thing. Do not confuse us just because you want things your way.
Do Not Act like you know everything about us: Parents always believe they know every detail about us but based on a few things we loved when we were young. Maybe you are right, we still love that Television show or blue is still our favorite color and Jack is still the best buddy but that’s not everything about us. Maybe we love – Strange things along with Mr. Bean now. There is a lot more than grades that are changing, and teenagers would love to have the interest of their parents to know their how-about.
Lack of Motivation: Teenagers sometimes needs a push from someone they trust, to accomplish certain things. They might doubt themselves or feel the competitors/task is more difficult to beat. That’s where they want their parents to understand their issues and motivate them. Not pressurize, but instead give them a spirit to do it.
There may be times when your child may have a sudden outburst of tears or feel low. Mood swings are normal and lead to joyous high or extreme lows. They can be taken as once a while thing or a reaction to anger or being annoyed. But if your teen gets effected by the smallest of things or exaggerated, it could be a sign of depressions
Social Conditions:Teens might try to fit in, in the group of friends they have or at school. They might accept daredevil challenges or drink alcohol to be impressive. Its quite normal and wanting recognition is common among teens. Parents need to understand the peer pressure on their child and try to talk convincingly rather than calling it a personality flaw.
Lacking Concentration: Teenagers tend to get distracted and find it difficult to concentrate on things. As a parent, do not let this simply pass by or soon it might affect his grades and also lead to depression. Try to know the reason behind it and work on it with your child. Sometimes even lack of sleep makes it difficult to concentrate.
Knowing that your kids listen: I don’t know why, but teens feel it’s not cool to listen to their parents all the time. They might even roll their eyes or act they are not, but they do listen to you. They want their parents to know they listen and not only that, but they even think about it later.
Do not judge them by their Friends:
Teenagers tend to be more close to their friends and you will always hear them say “Our friends matter a lot”. So do not criticize any of their friends.
Understand that your child shares a bond with something and instead of overlooking his thoughts, teach them what a good company and a bad one seems to be like. Parents also have to understand that friends are important to keep negative pressure under check and also for you to show them, that you respect their choice of a friend.
Teenagers tend to be Isolated: A lot of teenagers prefer staying away and not speak when they are hurt or under any emotional trauma. This may be because of some reason. Parents need to understand that and get their child to talking and open up to them or it might lead them, feeling like they have nobody to care about them and furthermore.
Most important – Appropriate expectations: Kids often feel that their parents or guides have too many expectations and of a very high level. Doing so does not help the kid to reach any height and just pressurizes him and leads to a difficult teenage time. Parents have to understand that they have to set appropriate and reasonable expectations, which would be then easier for your child to fulfill.
And maybe you are having a tough time today with your kid and they might feel drifted but remember they all come back. They grow and understand you better than they do today.
1. Not everything is how it looks or how it was, with your child.
2. They need your support and for you to understand them.
3. And also, they want you to respect their choices and not have very high expectations from them.